Keeping It In Perspective

Earlier this week, I received a phone call from my brother-in-law, Ben, who lives in Tennessee. Ben had received a call from his brother, Dave, in Florida who had made an interesting discovery.

Dave had been making an effort to find my parents' address on WhitePages.com. He typed "Roark" into the name field, and their ZIP code into the address field. He found what he was looking for, but also came across an additional entry with my name listed.

This in itself was not an interesting discovery since Kelly and I did indeed live and work in this same Tennessee town for two and one-half years. The intrigue begins with the job title listed under the entry with my name. It still had me listed as an employee of the West Fayetteville church of Christ, but with the job title listed as "false teacher" (click on the image above to see the screen capture).

Apparently, anyone with internet access is able to submit a name and job title. Dave was somewhat hesitant to let Ben call me with this piece of news, but being my best friend and brother-in-law (some say we were separated at birth), Ben knew exactly how I would take it: with great amusement.

Now, don't get me wrong...being labeled as a "false teacher" is no laughing matter -- especially if there is any validity to such an assertion. Understand, however, that when someone anonymously submits someone's name with that label to a website, that can be somewhat difficult to take seriously. It shows a genuine lack of character and courage, to say the least. And so, one might have to say in a situation as this, "consider the source."

While Ben and I were having a good chuckle over this, he asked if I could think of anyone who might be behind this. My answer was that I had only one or two guesses (after all, I'm not all that well-known!), but it would be impossible to say with any degree of certainty. Besides, I was not overly concerned with the situation in the first place.

Had this situation arisen in my younger days, I may have been hurt, angry, and on a mission to find the culprit. Now, at the advanced age of 30, I've found it much easier to keep situations like this in its proper perspective. For this, I give God the glory...

For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: "You shall love your neighbor as yourself." But if you bite and devour one another, watch out that you are not consumed by one another. But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live by the Spirit, let us also walk by the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.
Galatians 5:14-26, ESV

When we allow the Spirit of God to operate and mold our lives through the Scriptures, the difference will be plainly evident.

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Watch That Temper!

When King Ahasuerus promoted Haman the Agagite to a position above all the other officials in the Persian kingdom (Esther 3:1), it was decreed that all the king's servants would bow down and pay homage to this new "head honcho" (3:2). When Mordecai refused to do so, Haman was "filled with fury" (3:5). Mordecai's refusal to worship this man proved to be the catalyst for Haman's plot to eradicate the Jewish minority from the Persian empire (3:6).

In the end, the very gallows that Haman prepared for the hanging of Mordecai were used against the man himself (7:9-10). The fury and lack of self-control Haman displayed drove him to his own downfall.

Uncontrolled anger is:

1. Evidence of fleshly desires (Galatians 5:19-20).
2. A characteristic of fools (Proverbs 12:16).
3. Forbidden by God (Matthew 5:22; Romans 12:19).

Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down upon your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.
Ephesians 4:26-27, ESV

My friend, anger will arise from within every man from time to time. It is a lack of self-control in dealing with that anger which will inevitably lead to one's downfall. The 50-cubit-high gallows of Haman stood as a testament to that truth!

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Love's Lists

Read 1 Corinthians 13, and notice the description of what love is and is not.






Love is/does:

Patient (v. 4a)
Kind (v. 4b)
Rejoice with the truth (v. 6b)
Bear all things (v. 7a)
Believe all things (v. 7b)
Hope all things (v. 7c)
Endure all things (v. 7d)
Never ending (v. 8a)


Love is not/does not:

Envy (v. 4c)
Boast (v. 4d)
Arrogant (v. 4e)
Rude (v. 5a)
Insist on its own way (v. 5b)
Irritable (v. 5c)
Resentful (v. 5d)
Rejoice at wrongdoing (v. 6a)


Thus, when we find ourselves reflecting some portion of the latter list, we can know assuredly that our actions are not according with love. Let us strive day by day to implement more characteristics from the former, and less from the latter.

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She Bit Her Tongue, He Was Impressed

Melina Salazar learned firsthand the value of being kind to one's fellow man.

Melina is the Texas woman who, at the close of 2007, was given $50,000 and a 2000 Buick. The money and the car belonged to 89-year-old Walter "Buck" Swords, a regular patron at the Luby's cafeteria where Salazar worked as a waitress.

For nearly seven years, Ms. Salazar put up with what was apparently one of the most cantankerous and cranky customers one could ever imagine. She put on a smile and showed remarkable restraint for all that time. Mr. Swords was most favorably impressed.

Swords died in July of 2007, but it was just days before Christmas in 2007 that Salazar received word that she had been placed in Mr. Swords' will.

There is a lesson here for all of us. Being kind to those who are kind is no great feat. Is that not what Jesus said?

For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same?
Matthew 5:46, ESV

Yes, part of loving one's enemy involves self-restraint (a big part!). Bringing one's emotions under control is a sign of spiritual maturity (Galatians 5:22-23) and goes a long way toward becoming a "peacemaker" (Matthew 5:9).

The "reward" of which Christ spoke in the verse above refers primarily to the heavenly reward. But every so often -- as in the case with Melina Salazar -- there may be an additional reward for one's kindness.

Be conscious of how kind you are to those around you today, and every day!

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Hot-Tempered Woman Burned Up Over Heat

A Michigan couple made headlines this week after having a disagreement about the temperature of their home.

When Joseph Grucz asked his wife, Cheryl, to turn up the heat, she grabbed the couple's gun and fired one round. The bullet missed Joseph, but instead struck and destroyed the couple's flat-screen television (which is just simply a tragedy in its own right, in my book).

While speaking with the police dispatch operator as he hid his head under a pillow, Joseph claimed Cheryl was, "all excited about it because she's so cheap."

Well, let's look on the bright side here: Mrs. Grucz's frugality is certainly commendable, as is her determination to conserve energy and be "green." Okay, we're probably stretching a bit there, but you get the idea.

Despite her best efforts to be fiscally and environmentally conscious, one would hope Mrs. Grucz will be able to manage her temper more effectively in the future.

No doubt, each of us can recall a time or two (or seventy) where we let our own tempers get the best of us. Remember, anger is a natural human emotion. The difference is made in how our actions are affected by that anger:

Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.
Ephesians 4:26-27, ESV

So lest we ruin a perfectly good flat-screen television (or worse), let us always remember to take a moment to collect ourselves when the blood begins to "boil."

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